What Does A Korean Woman Want When Dating An English Teacher?

Would a Korean woman ever want to date an English teacher?

Only those that know what they want! Well what do Korean women want when they date an English teacher in Korea? Wouldn’t they want the same things that they would want from a local Korean man?

Not exactly – In fact you can boil down a Korean woman’s desires to these 4 things:

• an alternative
• an adventure
• Acceptance
• Activity

Soon you’ll discover what it takes to become the man that she’ll think about all day. All it takes is understanding and applying these 4 points.

Note that this also applies to women looking to date Korean men.

 

A Korean Woman Wants An Alternative

 

When she’s dating you she’s really interested in how different you are from Korean men. She’s tired of the same old dating routine. She’s at a point in her life where she finds local Korean men typical and wants an escape.

We’re talking more than just behavior. We’re also talking about expectations. Korean men typically became too domineering and intrusive for her. Not only that but she probably met them through her social circle and has to stay tied up to their expectations.

When she’s dating you she can relax because her friends and family don’t know you (she probably won’t tell them either.) She’s looking for a new experience and you can provide her with it.

So I recommend showing her your world and culture. Teach her your language. Dress like you would from you country and she’ll appreciate it (as long as it’s not TOO different.)

 

A Korean Woman Wants An Adventure!

 

In addition to an alternative dating experience she’s also looking for an escape! Your differences scream ‘adventure’ to her! A lot of Korean women are bored with their repetitive lives. They watch foreign T.V. and are curious about the experience.

This is where you shine! You can present yourself as an escape from her everyday life. This is something where Gyopos can actually shine more. Gyopos (foreign-Koreans) can provide her with the adventure AND make her feel more comfortable. This is because we are all more comfortable with what looks familiar.

 

A Korean Woman Seeks Acceptance!

 

There is an abundance of beautiful Korean women. Sadly they don’t pass the ‘standards’ of what Korean men want. Maybe they’re not ‘white’ enough. Maybe they’re not ‘thin’ enough. Perhaps their face isn’t ‘small’ enough.

So what can they do? They know that foreigners have different tastes than the locals. Korean women can land more quality foreign men than they could with a Korean man. It doesn’t mean that Korean men have more quality – it just means that they have a different taste.

This is why you can have a long term relationship with a Korean woman. She can have a much more attractive and quality foreign man than a Korean man.

 

A Korean Woman Wants Activity!

 

Sadly most Korean dating resorts around going to restaurants or movies (with their huge camera.) As a foreign man you can introduce her to new foreign experiences!

You can take her salsa dancing! Introduce her to darts and a Western sports bar! If you live in Korea you can bring her to Itaewon in Seoul (most Korean women haven’t had the chance to go.)

 

Get Started With Approaching Her!

 

If you want information on how to approach a Korean woman with success then I recommend going my site on dating Korean women. You can discover what it takes to meet and date Korean women anywhere around the world.

 

It’s All Fun And Games Until Someone Gets Hurt!

 

So you are an alternative experience but would she want to date you forever? Would you? She understands that as an English teacher you won’t be in Korea forever. You must understand that Korean women have social expectations – and they value those expectations.

That being said if you understand your relationship (or relationships) might not last forever then you’ll have a great time in Korea!

Have fun! ;-)

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Top 10 Things to Do in Seoul

One of the largest and by night the most colorful cities in the world, Seoul is truly an eye-popping experience.  Whether you’re here for a month or three years, never hesitate to seize any chance to take a look around.  The following are 10 popular destinations.

  1. Gyeongbok Palace.  Destroyed and reconstructed several times, Seoul’s grandest palace offers English tours (three times daily) for foreigners looking to learn about Korea’s history and architecture while admiring the stunning view.  It’s closed on Tuesdays and not far from the Blue House (the President’s seat).  You probably won’t have much trouble finding it, seeing as it’s at the north end of Sejongro, Seoul’s main thoroughfare.
  2. Bukchon Village.  Nearby Gyeongbok and Changdeok Palaces sits this well-preserved village of traditional wooden homes (hanok) featuring small courtyards, beautiful outer walls, and tiled roofs.  Take your time through the neighborhood and admire the art galleries.
  3. EatA lot.  Anyone who’s ever had kalbi never forgets it.  The same can be said of doenjang jjigae (stew with bean paste, vegetables and/or meat, and tofu) and bulgogi (literally “fire meat,” marinated barbecued beef, chicken, or pork).  If you’re feeling brave, try the kimchi, although you may want a breath mint on hand.  For a full-course lunch, try heading to Baedongbaji in Samcheong-dong.
  4. Shinsegae Department Store.  A stroll through here is a cultural lesson in itself.  A veritable labyrinth of shopping snares like fresh fish, beloved kimchi, and Ferragamo shoes will likely mesmerize you for (gulp) hours.  Prepare to be overwhelmed by the sheer variety of goods offered and have a well-earned breath of fresh air on the rooftop.  Find it between the Namdaemun market and the Myeongdong shopping district.
  5. War Memorial and Museum.  Sadly the butt end of countless foreign invasions, prepare for a sobering morning by visiting the museum ($3 admission) and learn about its military and cultural history.  Much of its current tensions with nearby neighbors (and those across the Pacific) make a lot of sense after some time spent here.  Head for Samgakji Station via subway line 4, and try to visit the place early in the day to give yourself time to cheer up.
  6. Bugaksan.  Seoul is nestled in the mountains, so you might as well climb one.  On this one, you’ll find several trails to take you through reconstructed 15th century gates along fortress walls.  About 40 years ago, North Korean commandos sent to assassinate the president climbed the very peak but were unsuccessful.  The Seoul Fortress is newly re-opened for touring (although you’ll want to make your reservations at least a week in advance) since its closing over security concerns.  Don’t forget to bring your passport on the trail.
  7. N’Seoul Tower.  This 480m high beauty—complete with elevators and a chill lobby—replaced Mt. Namsan’s fortifications.  The area underwent a makeover in 2005 and now looks totally modern.  Take a seat in one of the many cafes and restaurants (try the revolving one) and admire the evening lights.
  8. Namdaemun market.  The best place to get the best bargains in town is undoubtedly Namdaemun market.  You’ll find everything from household appliances to food, jewelry to fabrics in a stretch of street-vendor stalls.  Try some of the vendors’ food—mandu gook, a dumpling soup, is a widespread favorite.  Get to the market via subway line 4 to Hoehyeon Station.
  9. Cheonggyecheon Stream.  It may not be a babbling brook in the woods, but this manmade waterway is the place to bring your romantic partner, although half of Seoul will be doing the same.  Whisper sweet nothings all the way to the stream, just off Sejongro.
  10. Itaewon.  Even if you’re new to Korea, if you’re a foreigner you’ve likely heard of Itaewon’s bars, clubs, and shopping district near the U.S. Army base.  In the basement of the Crown Hotel is one of Itaewon’s most beloved clubs, Club Volume, where you’ll hear some of the world’s most celebrated DJs.  It’s not all late-night entertainment, though; have Sunday brunch at Le Saint Ex, a French wine bar and bistro.

Don’t forget that Seoul is also home to four UNESCO World Heritage Sites: Changdeokgung, Hwaseong Fortress, Jongmyo Shrine, and the Royal Tombs of the Joseon Dynasty.  These are worth checking out, too.

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Top 10 Misconceptions of Koreans

  1. They all like kimchi. Not too long ago, I saw an ad in a Korean magazine for a small refrigerator specifically for kimchi.  Since it said “#1 best seller,” I’m guessing it sells a lot.  Still, it’s kind of like saying all Americans love hamburgers, isn’t it?
  2. They all know Tae Kwon Do.  I know Tae Kwon Do; I’m Japanese-American.  My half-Korean, half-German friend does judo.  For Koreans and all other Far East Asians stereotyped in this manner, consider responding, “Do you want to find out?”
  3. They like golf.  I’m going to let Margaret Cho answer this one.  Regarding the stereotypes that Koreans all like golf: “Well, everybody does but me.  So, there is one Korean person who doesn’t.”
  4. They eat dogs.  Yes, many of us have grown up with Fidos and Lassies, but the truth is that so have many Koreans, especially of the newer generations.  When it comes down to it, a dog is an animal like any other that is technically edible and is valued differently in the older Korean culture than in the American one.  Eating a dog in America would be similar to eating a beef steak in India—a huge no-no. Today, while some Koreans eat dogs, it might be safe to say that it’s a minority of the population.  The overall attitude in recent years seems to have gone from “personal choice” to “unnecessary cruelty” (and the issue of sanitation also comes into play).  The dogs that are eaten are supposedly killed by an electric rod rather than being beaten to death, so the issue of cruelty is as debatable as cow slaughter in America.
  5. They work too much.  I came across a transcript to a KBC 9.9 podcast between 4 participants who talked about misconceptions of Koreans.  In it, the overall consensus seems to be that while Koreans do hang around the classroom or office long before and after working hours, their time isn’t always spent productively.  Whereas some Koreans consider Americans lazy and inconsiderate for “working” from only 9 to 5, Koreans see themselves as dedicated members of the workplace.  They arrive early so they’re not hurried before a class or meeting, and they stay late in case the boss needs someone to do something.  Meanwhile, many of them can be seen playing with their cell phones or browsing the web.  The issue here is availability and dedication, not always quality of time spent.
  6. They’re terrible drivers.  When judged by North American standards, Korean drivers are rude.  Consider this, though: there are 47 million people in a 100,000 square km country.  There’s not a whole lot of space.  Those three inches between your car and the Korean guy who cut you off?  That was nothing.  Moreover, Daniel (on the KBC 9.9 podcast) says that Koreans are taught to drive that way in driving school.  They’re taught to drive “by instinct and that’s what they do when they get on the highway.”  When asked whether the concept of right of way has ever occurred to them, Daniel says that Koreans don’t have it in their culture, and it’s all about who steps on the gas first.  This isn’t rude.  It’s different.
  7. They’re rude.  While we’re talking about rude, many non-Koreans complain when they go to the peninsula that nobody apologizes or thanks them for anything.  Let’s remember that 47 million people are crammed into a country the size of Tennessee.  If you apologized to everyone you bumped into or couldn’t hold the door for, you’d never get to the office before noon.  Perhaps Koreans can be found to be less friendly than “Western people” (although this statement, made by Chance on the podcast, is itself iffy, since many Americans find Brits unfriendly, and so forth).  Still, once you get to know a Korean, he or she is a friend like anyone else, yes?
  8. Insert misconception here.  See Misconception 10.
  9. Insert misconception here.  See Misconception 10.
  10. They’re jingoists.  This one is sticky and long-winded, and because it plays into every other stereotype (and why I’m only writing on 8 instead of a clean 10), I’ve listed it last.
    Let me elaborate.  Until now, I didn’t know any Korean stereotypes.  As a Japanese-American, I’ve seen both sides of my heritage screw over Korean heritage pretty badly.  I should be full of ideas for stereotypes, right?  Wrong.  After a two-hour search on Google, I could gather no more than these 8 misconceptions of Koreans.  Here’s why.

In the June 30, 2002 article of the New York Times titled, “Soccer Must Keep The Ball Rolling,” the writer elaborated on a controversial referee call in the match between South Korea and Spain on June 22 in the FIFA World Cup of that year.  “Some fans and national officials see these questionable calls as part of a plot favoring South Korea, a blend of jingoism and paranoia that is quite unbecoming.”

If the writer intended to be subjective, fine, but let’s not pretend he’s calculated Korean history into his judgment that a) there was a plot, and it showed a blend of b) jingoism and c) paranoia that was d) unbecoming.  He might consider them “jingoistic” because he’s not used to a country stomped on for so many centuries utter a cry for unity.

On June 25, a writer of the Associated Press ends the article “Record crowds watch South Korea lose semifinal to Germany” by saying, “The success has been a huge boost in this land of 47 million that has long suffered from an inferiority complex, being squeezed between China and Japan, who often invaded and subjugated the country.”

Korea is often referred to as “the shrimp that gets caught in the middle of whales.”  China and Japan have both chewed on it.  But dear Associated Press writer, let’s not forget that whole Korean War bit.  The Korean Peninsula is the only remaining place in the world that remains divided since the Cold War thanks to the U.S. and Russia, according to Kosuke Takahashi, a journalist born to Japanese parents and raised in Koreatown near Tokyo.

Many people in the western world would dismiss Korean nationalism as jingoism because it’s been a long, long time since North America and England have been stepped upon by an outside empire.  Because Korea is often dismissed as a subjugated nation that influenced no country save its own (a crippling and false accusation), it lacks in resounding stereotypes, at least that a non-Korean and my sometimes-friend Google could find.  Most other “misconceptions” applied to Far East Asians in general, like enjoying rice and not being able to see out of squinty eyes.  If you feel the need to enlighten me, please do so.  I’d welcome a mature response.

 

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Top 5 ESL Teaching Tools for Automatic Activities

Guest post from: Maria Rainier is a freelance writer and blog junkie. She is currently a resident blogger at First in Education and performs research surrounding online schools. In her spare time, she enjoys square-foot gardening, swimming, and avoiding her laptop

If you’re a teacher of any kind, you’ve probably experienced the sudden and frightening realization that you’ve got empty time to fill and no creative ideas for short activities. This can be especially difficult for ESL teachers because thinking on your feet to educate children who speak a different language is a unique challenge. One of the best ways to stay prepared for those surprising times when your lesson comes up short is to plan ahead and keep teaching tools within reach. If you’re not comfortable with building in activities on the fly, add optional material to the end of your lesson plan just in case. Either way, you can use the following tools to help you keep your students focused and learning for the full duration of the day.

1. Wordless Books
This tool is well-suited to teaching younger ESL students, but if you’re feeling creative, you can make a picture book for older classes using photos from magazines or other sources. You won’t have to worry about making up a story – that’s your students’ job. Whether your wordless book is purchased or handmade, it can be the perfect way to spend extra time once you’ve exhausted your lesson plan. For younger students, have everyone sit in a circle while you hold up the book for them to see and turn the pages, letting your students take turns making up a few sentences for each picture. If you have older students, pass the book around and have each student describe his or her page of the story in a few sentences. By doing this, you can have them explain what the background and characters look like before they continue the plot of the story. This makes for a slightly more advanced degree of vocabulary usage, verb tenses, and creativity.
2. Songs
If you’re musically inclined, keep a list of English songs that your students might like to learn. Whenever you have a few minutes to spare, you can either sing a song that you’ve already taught as review or teach part of a new one. Students often enjoy making music and are happy to participate in this activity. You can also take requests from your students if they know song titles that they’d like to learn, then have students vote on which song they want to learn next.
3. Question Cards
Keep a box of index cards that have simple questions on them and set aside some time each week to write new ones as you teach fresh material to your students. Whenever you find that you need to fill some time, take out a card and have students raise their hands to see who can answer the question correctly first. You can use the material on these cards for test questions or extra credit questions if you re-word them. It’s also a great way to keep track of what your students have learned over a semester, which can help you develop assessments and re-work your lesson plans based on student progress.
4. Monolingual English Dictionaries
If you have the funding, it’s a great idea to buy enough dictionaries for each of your students to keep in the classroom. If not, try keeping one dictionary for every pair of students or as many as you can get. Not only are monolingual English dictionaries excellent teaching tools on their own, but they’re also helpful to students while you teach and in short activities. For example, you can tell students that they’re allowed to look up unfamiliar words that you’ve used in your lesson plan. If you want to turn this into an activity, have students write down words they don’t recognize as you teach. At the end of the lesson, have everyone share their unfamiliar words and try to guess what they mean. Then, encourage students to race each other to see who can find each word in the dictionary first.
5. Newspapers
Having access to English newspapers is a great opportunity for developing short classroom activities for ESL students. If you can easily get enough for each student to have one, you’ll be coming up with creative activities in no time. If not, you can just get one or a few copies for everyone to share. Some examples of newspaper activities are:
• Go to the Sports section and read the first article, then write down five adjectives that describe a star soccer player.
• Skim through the Entertainment section and find two places you would like to visit, then write a short paragraph about why you chose those places.
• Find three new words on the front page, look them up, define them, and then write a short paragraph that uses all three words correctly.

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