Let’s be honest.
You wouldn’t be the first guy who comes to South Korea to teach English for a couple of months and who then decides to stay forever.
Some guys fall in love with the culture; others fall in love with a woman.
You know better than me that there’s something about this country and about the local women that makes it hard to leave. And it usually starts with a simple “annyeonghaseyo” on a Korean dating site or with a moment of eye contact on a busy street in Seoul.
Eventually, you’ll meet a woman who makes your heart thump, and you need to be prepared for this moment.
You don’t want to be one of these guys who mess up every first date because they violate every unspoken rule of the Korean dating culture.
You want to be the kind of guy who knows what it takes to find the perfect job and the perfect woman in this country.
Have a look at the following seven facts about the Korean dating culture and promise me to think about them before your next date.
1. Dating in Korea is all About Getting Introduced
Approaching strangers is not common in this country. In fact, I once told a Korean friend of mine that walking up to a stranger and introducing yourself is not uncommon in the West. He just looked at me, completely baffled.
In Korea, it’s not about who you approach. It’s about who introduces you. If you ask a Korean couple “where have you met?” there’s a high chance that they answer “we got introduced by friends.”
There are even events where groups of guys get introduced to groups of girls.
2. Korean Women Don’t Have a lot of Time for Dating
To be honest, most of my South Korean friends are smarter than me, and I’m not ashamed to admit it.
Maybe it’s because I never had to suffer through 16 hour school days. Maybe it’s because of the culture I grew up in, a culture that encourages being cool instead of being a crammer.
Things are different in Korea.
The people are proud of their education. They do everything they can to become crammers. There’s no doubt that the Korean education system is among the best in the world.
As a result, Korean women are either studying or working all day and sometimes all night. They don’t have a lot of time for dating. Weekend relationships are entirely normal.
3. Korean Women See Interracial Dating as a Way to Escape the Expectations
The uncomfortable truth is that some Korean women feel trapped in a culture that expects them to study until their eyes burn and to work until they burn out.
They want to get out, and they see dating a foreigner as a way to escape the high expectations. They know that a Korean mother-in-law expects them to work all day and to be a perfect mother and housewife. They also know that a Western mother-in-law wouldn’t be that strict.
That’s why you can find so many women on Korean dating sites. They want to date a man who doesn’t have a family that expects the world from her. Always keep in mind that your Korean girlfriend loves you and the culture you grew up in.
4. Showing Affection in Public is a No-Go
Don’t even think about kissing a Korean woman in public.
What about holding hands?
I’ve seen some couples doing it, but not many. Showing affection in public is considered impolite. Unless you want to never see her again, you shouldn’t do it.
But that doesn’t mean that Korean women are not affectionate. They are, but they only show it when you are in a private environment.
5. Every Day is a Celebration
There’s only one way to have a happy relationship with a Korean woman.
You need to be willing to celebrate.
Every day is a celebration. Okay, it’s not that extreme, but thinking about all the anniversary days in the Korean dating culture makes my head spin.
Korean couples celebrate their relationship every hundred days and every 14th of the month. Yes, every month and every day has a different theme.
Korean people are extremely proud of their relationships. They cherish them and your girlfriend expects you to do the same.
6. Jeong Prevents You from Going Broke
The concept of Jeong is a bit hard to explain.
Basically, the word Jeong describes the feeling of affection that couples have and that makes them want to share things.
The good news is that, thanks to Jeong, most Korean women don’t expect you to pay on the date, at least not everything.
It’s common that guys pay approximately 60% and girls pay the rest. It might not work with all Korean girls but it definitely works with the ones who believe in the concept of Jeong.
7. You Will Wear Couple Shirts
I have to warn you.
Sooner or later you will wear couple shirts. And no, it’s not as ridiculous as it sounds, at least not for Koreans.
If you and your girlfriend wear couple shirts in New York, you will get laughed at and you might even land on YouTube because someone decides to film you. Do it in Seoul and you are the most normal person in the world.
Everyone does it because it’s an essential part of the Korean dating culture.
Believe me, you will do it too.
This is a guest post by Sebastian Harriss from the Global Seducer.